Attention is the First Step to Connection

It’s hard to have a conversation with someone—child or adult—if you don’t have their attention. That’s why teaching kids how to appropriately get attention is a powerful social skill that reduces challenging behaviors and builds stronger relationships.

Kids often default to yelling or whining—because it works. But we can help them build better habits.

Try This at Home & School:
Model it: Tap your child’s shoulder, make eye contact, and speak calmly.
Practice it: Have your child try this with you, siblings, or even a favorite stuffed animal.
Reinforce it: Praise the behavior! “Wow, you tapped my shoulder and waited—I’m proud of you!”

The Bottom Line:
Kids communicate through behavior. When we teach and reward appropriate ways to get attention, like a gentle tap and eye contact, we reduce frustration—and support their lifelong social success. 

Author: Ashton K. Gauthier