Calming an angry child is no easy feat, but it’s also a vital skill to teach. Anger is a normal emotion—for kids and adults alike. Helping your child recognize and name their anger gives them the tools to control their behavior and express their feelings healthily. Let’s empower kids to manage big feelings with love, patience, and creativity.

Notice & label emotions:

About yourself: “I feel angry. My heart is racing, and I feel like a volcano inside. I’m going to take deep breaths to calm down.”

About your child: “I can see you’re angry. Your hands are clenched, and your face looks upset.”

About others: “That little boy looks angry. What do you think might help him feel better?”

 Use role play with puppets and toys:

“Wow, this Ms. Lion is very angry. Her sister took her toys! She is stomping her feet and roaring very loudly! Let’s help her calm down.” Role-playing helps children understand emotions safely and playfully.

Encourage movement: Teach your child to release energy by pushing on a wall or yelling into a pillow—safe ways to express anger without hurting others.

Read together: Books about emotions can help kids understand their feelings.

For more: Backpack Connection: How to Help Your Child Recognize and Understand Anger

Author: Ashton K. Gauthier