Frustration is a normal part of learning and growing—for kids and adults! We can help children develop emotional awareness and problem-solving skills by noticing and labeling frustration. Check out some ways to help.

Notice & Label Feelings

About Yourself: “I am frustrated. I’ve tried fixing the vacuum three times, and it’s not working! I will take a break and try again when I feel calmer.” About Your Child: “You are so frustrated! That tower keeps falling. Let’s take a snack break and try again together!” About Others: “That little boy looks frustrated. I wonder if he needs help climbing the ladder?”

Teach Healthy Coping Strategies

Encourage breaks: “I see you’re frustrated. Let’s do five jumping jacks and grab some water, and then you can try again!”
Model asking for help: “You can say, ‘Help, please!’”
Use puppets or toys for role-playing: “Wow, this train can’t get up the hill. What do you think he should do next?”

 At School

Teachers can guide children through frustration by identifying emotions and offering support.
“You’ve been working hard on that puzzle piece. You seem frustrated. Would you like some help?”

By practicing these strategies, we empower children to manage frustration, build confidence, and embrace challenges! Here are some more resources. 

Author: Ashton K. Gauthier

Backpack Connection: How to Help Your Child Recognize & Understand Frustration, OEC_Pyramid_Pages_10.pdf