The end of summer brings a mix of emotions for youths, caregivers, and educators. Excitement for a fresh start, nervousness about new routines, and sadness about leaving behind the slower pace of summer are all valid feelings during this transition. Social and Emotional Learning (SEL) can be a powerful tool to support everyone during this shift, helping to build resilience, regulate emotions, and foster strong relationships that set the tone for a successful school year ahead.

Here’s how SEL skills can help smooth the transition back to school.

Acknowledge Emotions Without Judgment

Going back to school stirs a range of emotions. Instead of dismissing concerns (“You’ll be fine!”), Encourage open conversations. Ask:

• “What are you most looking forward to?”

   

• “Is there anything you’re nervous about?”

   

Utilize the SEL competency of self-awareness to help children and teens recognize and label their emotions. Model this as an adult by sharing your own experiences (“I’m feeling a little anxious about getting back into a routine, too.”).

Practice Self-Management Through Routines

One of the most helpful ways to support transitions is by slowly reintroducing structure. Summer often brings flexible schedules, so easing into school-year routines can prevent a jarring shift.

Try:

• Gradually moving bedtime/wake-up times earlier a week before school starts.

   

• Practicing morning or evening routines.

   

• Setting aside quiet reading or homework time each day.

   

These habits foster self-management, enabling children to manage stress, stay organized, and feel in control of their environment.

Foster Connection to Reduce Anxiety

Relationships are the foundation of a positive school experience. Help children re-establish social awareness and relationship skills by:

• Scheduling playdates or meet-ups with classmates before school starts.

   

• Attending school orientation events together.

   

• Talking about how to make new friends or greet teachers.

   

For educators, a warm welcome on the first day—by name, with a smile, or through a simple check—in—goes a long way in helping youth feel safe and seen.

Set Goals and Celebrate Small Wins

The start of the school year is a perfect time to practice responsible decision-making through goal setting. Encourage youth to think about:

• What they want to learn.

   

• How they want to treat others.

   

• What personal habits do they want to strengthen (e.g., staying organized, asking for help)?

   

Celebrate effort and progress, not just outcomes. Affirming small successes builds confidence and a growth mindset.

Build in Moments of Calm

Transition periods can be overstimulating. Make space for calm and reflection:

• Practice deep breathing or mindfulness exercises.

   

• Create a “calm corner” at home or in the classroom.

   

• Encourage journaling or quiet time after school to decompress.

   

These strategies help regulate emotions and create a sense of inner balance, skills that are especially important when navigating change.

The return to school is more than just a logistical shift; it’s an emotional transition for the whole community. SEL provides youths, families, and educators with the tools to navigate change with empathy, resilience, and connection. By prioritizing emotional well-being alongside academic readiness, we lay the groundwork for a healthy and successful year. Let’s start strong, not just with sharpened pencils and packed lunches, but with the skills that help us thrive together.

Author: Ashton K. Gauthier